Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

Please, do not ask me about religion. I get the evil look every time I tell people I am an agnostic who teeters on atheism. My world resolves around ethics and the rule of law. That’s it. I have no use for religion: religious convictions are not part of my existence -- the laws of man are good enough for me. I have lived in several cities: Seattle, Miami, Norman, Minneapolis-Saint Paul, Saint Cloud, the District of Columbia, Houston, and Mankato. I am not sure where I am going to live next. And I have never really had a profession, only jobs: been a cook, a dishwasher, a civil servant, house cleaner, university instructor and researcher and so on and so forth. Every so often I get questions concerning the role and place of the African woman. Well, I don’t know; at least not with any certainty. What seems to work best is when both partners work as a team: cooperate, coordinate and collaborate their marital efforts. And they should be mindful of the insidious effect of modernization on the African family.

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I have on occasions witnessed people sob, or become misty-eyed, when they speak of how much they miss friends and family and the community grew up in. They may grumble about this and that and about everything that is socially, politically and economically wrong with Nigeria; still, they'll tell you how much they miss home...

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You are broke, and all you need is a helping hand but there is none. Blessed Jesus! It is in times like this when "America will show you her true color."

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It is my hope that Nigerians will right the wrongs of the past, restore my hope in their goodness and sensibility, and also make it up to Muhammadu Buhari, a great man who deserves to be the next executive president of Nigeria...

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