Quite unlike Olusegun Obasanjo (the ‘dead’ statesman whose dismal failure as President of the
In one of the books I read in the French Capital, a glittering city where Princess Diana met her untimely tragic death a decade ago, chilled in its winter season, “Think And Grow Rich”, by Napoleon Hill, I came across “The Ten Stimuli of the Mind”. According to Mr Hill: “The human mind responds to stimuli, through which it may be “keyed up” to high rates of vibration, known as enthusiasm, creative imagination, intense desire, etc. The stimuli to which the mind responds most freely are: the desire for sex expression; love; a burning desire for fame, power, or financial gain, money; music; friendship between either those of the same sex, or those of the opposite sex; a mastermind alliance based upon the harmony of two or more people who ally themselves for spiritual or temporal advancement; mutual suffering, such as that experienced by people who are persecuted; auto-suggestion; fear; narcotics and alcohol.”
For Hill whose book was a rich product of years of study and investigation involving the rich and powerful in
The urge of sex in man is natural. And history bears testimony to the fact that behind every great man of fame, fortune or power there is a woman of substance propelling him to greater heights in his prime. People go to any lenght to make it in life in order to satisfy their sexual needs; even armed robbers, corporate robbers do crime to be able to obtain and maintain the basic necessities of life which in turn guarantee access to female anatomy.
Women through the ages have effortlessly demonstrated their anatomical power. Yet it goes without saying that uncontrollable sex could be a destructive element. HIV/AIDS pandemic readily comes to mind! The Bible taught us how Adam “fell” victim to Eve’s beguiling beauty by heeding the Satan-induced call for an evil fruit pudding. Samson the dreadlocked great with his natural power over lion and edifice demolition was demystified and destroyed by the charming guiles of his wife.
My late father, a man of considerable archaic wisdom and influence in the village during his time, was a polygamist marrying three wives. In their time and epoch however before the advent of the modern man and concomitant civilisation polygamy was widely embraced and practised. But the modern man has evolved over time but some religion like Islam still encourage faithfuls to marry as many wives as possible as far as there is the material means to maintain the conjugal status.
The late Bashorun Abiola, the best President Nigeria never had post-Awo, was known to be a chronic polygamist but he was highly organised family-wise, business-wise. After the June 12 saga consumed him sadly however the managers of his estate in London has had to resort to DNA system to be able to ascertain pretenders and biological partakers of his great wealth in accordance with his Will. The accurate number of Chief Abiola’s children may never be completely known! And many of them risk becoming bastards!
The PDP member of the Federal House of Representatives from
The ‘Governor’ of
Ladies and gentlemen, the major concern here is not what Nyako’s choice of polygamy has thrown up but the material cumulative effects on the
IBB, the evil genius of a dictator, upon creating
Sani Abacha, the late tyrant cum kleptocrat, met his waterloo in an imported foreign prostitute. Those who plotted his apple-eating demise deserved credit for their ingenuity — a hapless nation was saved from suffocating “Hurricane Abacha”. When one considers that Abacha’s wife is a beautiful woman then the argument by some promiscuous elements that “man shall not live by tasti
ng one kind of ‘soup’ all the time” becomes apt.
In my village a certain man, Okonkwo the stammerer, now late, was once summoned by his extended family during the Xmas feast to explain his penchant for breeding unspaced children year in year out. Okonkwo had then eleven children and he was a poor bricklayer who also doubled as “ogbu akwu” (palm fruit cutter). In the meeting his rich half-brother based in
When I went back home February this year Okonkwo’s first son is a trained vulcaniser, the second an illiterate ‘building contractor’ and the first daughter had gotten married to an old widower after an “unknown soldier” — (apology to the late Abami Eda) — had put her in a family way necessitating her marriage out of choice. In Igboland pregnancy outside wedlock, “ime mkpuke” or before marriage is seen as a ‘taboo’! And whoever is ‘loaded’ gets a ‘tokunboh’ husband for sure.
The late Okonkwo in my village is only but a metaphor. To be sure there are millions of Okonkwos around
How do we tame a man’s manhood? How can this ‘pistol’ that has killed many and taken many ‘prisoners’ be tamed? Despite the sophistry of man and his academic and scientific breakthroughs the libido still constitutes a big problem to mankind. A friend of mine once told me jocularly that no matter how educated or honourable a man can be in life the “third leg” remains ignorant! He maintained rightly that it remains a sensitive part of the man’s body that controls and overwhelms his emotions.
Taming the man’s manhood therefore is practically impossible because it is uncontrollable by majority of our kind. Yet the good and bad news deducible is that it makes and breaks our being as mere mortals.