The concept of marriage is an exceptionally phenomenal one that the natural human mind cannot fully comprehend. The natural human mind cannot understand spiritual things.
The beauty of marriage when engaged with the right person and motive is consistently underestimated.
The usefulness, purpose and blessing available in a good marriage is globally downplayed.
How can the natural human mind comprehend the fact that when one chases a thousand, the union of two shall chase tens of thousands? The calculation doesn’t add up.
It’s a divine mystery.
When God’s rules are obeyed, the blessings and outcome accrued from it cannot be fathomed.
“It’s better to live on a roof top than to live with a troublesome woman.”
I think a man that is blessed enough to manage 700 wives and 300 concubines successfully without recorded rancour should have something to teach my generation about the concept of marriage.
Samson with his unique God ordained supernatural ability and how he died miserably is something men should study.
How can a man so powerful that he killed a lion with his bare hands, without a weapon, solely uplifts city gates, die the way he died?
At a time, he was bound in the midst of the Philistines, he picked the jawbone of a donkey on the floor and killed 1000 Philistines, he was such a sensational superman and an accomplished superhero.
It takes two to tangle, two folks cannot be together except they agree.
In our fast changing world, how do we agree? With the free flow of information, advent of instant information dissemination mechanism and the ease of sharing opinion.
While Israel sees Delilah as an evil betrayal, I believe Philistines gave her the highest honour of the land. She single-handedly succeeded where powerful army failed.
Most likely, there is a National Delilah Day to honour her.
Without lifting a weapon, she singlehandedly destroyed the greatest man on earth with all the God-ordained supernatural abilities.
The only reason Delilah “betrayed” Samson is because of their divergent purpose and vision.
Samson’s vision, destiny and purpose in life is to secure the nation of Israel and protect the people from external forces; hence the supernatural powers.
Delilah would rather protect her country from their greatest threat who happens to be Samson than be married to the “most powerful” man on earth and have a “successful marriage” with him.
It’s simple; their vision and purpose in life was different; no hard feelings.
I don’t believe she agreed to destroy and or betray Samson because of money.
Samson wasn’t poor, she just preferred the safety of her people rather than be with Samson.
As its often said, it’s better to remain single than entangle with the wrong person.
Samson would have lived longer if he remained single but he died prematurely without fulfilling purpose because of his marriage to Delilah.
Marriage itself is good but Samson married the wrong person. The vision of the woman he decided to marry is different from his; there was no meeting of the minds.
Purpose is so vital to a successful marriage that Isaac and Rebecca despite being together for years without any recorded rancour could not agree on which of their sons should take over their spiritual inheritance.
Rebecca was willing to procure curses for herself just to ensure Jacob receives the blessing over his elder brother.
She must have tried unsuccessfully to convince Isaac to bless Jacob and not Esau but the old man wouldn’t agree, hence she hacked the scheme.
In our fast changing world, Isaac and Rebecca would have filed for dissolution of their marriage in the High Court of Lagos State after that incidence.
The vision or purpose of coming together must be mutual for the marriage to work.
You may desire to marry someone who has the wealth of Elon Musk, the lifestyle of W.F. Kumuyi, the fashion style of R.M.D., the swag of Jim Iyke, the body of Osborne Akionla or the packs of Dwayne Johnson.
You may desire to be with someone who has the face of Agbani Darego, the fierceness of Funke Felix-Adejumo, the skill of Serena Williams, the work ethics of Ibikun Awosika or the fame of Oprah Winfrey.
To have a successful marriage, some things are ephemeral while others are essential.
Amongst other things, ensure that the vision and purpose of your partner is similar to yours and both should be on the same page on major issues of life.
Don’t concentrate on minor issues and abandon the major while on a search with someone you intend to be with for the rest of your life.
A whale and lion cannot dwell together for long. No matter the attraction, if they marry, that marriage cannot last.
Life is too short to live it miserably.
Marriage can be exciting if you understand the principles that guide it.
However, people can have a successful life without marriage.
Marriage isn’t an achievement in life but if you must marry, endeavour to be with the right person, don’t rush, take your time and do it right.
If you are in a marriage that isn’t working, seek for help. If all is done and it cannot work, pull out. We need you alive and sane.
God bless you.