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Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

Please, do not ask me about religion. I get the evil look every time I tell people I am an agnostic who teeters on atheism. My world resolves around ethics and the rule of law. That’s it. I have no use for religion: religious convictions are not part of my existence -- the laws of man are good enough for me. I have lived in several cities: Seattle, Miami, Norman, Minneapolis-Saint Paul, Saint Cloud, the District of Columbia, Houston, and Mankato. I am not sure where I am going to live next. And I have never really had a profession, only jobs: been a cook, a dishwasher, a civil servant, house cleaner, university instructor and researcher and so on and so forth. Every so often I get questions concerning the role and place of the African woman. Well, I don’t know; at least not with any certainty. What seems to work best is when both partners work as a team: cooperate, coordinate and collaborate their marital efforts. And they should be mindful of the insidious effect of modernization on the African family.

  • Friends and Friendships

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde October 10, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    How do you tackle a situation where you are best of friends with a woman who is happily married, but you are not friends with her husband?

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  • Would You Consider Yourself Successful?

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde October 10, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    “I sometimes wonder whether those of us who are in the academic world are not wasting our time doing what we do best. We toil and toil and toil all …

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  • Nigeria Is Where the Heart Is

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde October 1, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    I have on occasions witnessed people sob, or become misty-eyed, when they speak of how much they miss friends and family and the community grew up in. They may grumble …

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  • Broke in America

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde October 1, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    You are broke, and all you need is a helping hand but there is none. Blessed Jesus! It is in times like this when “America will show you her true …

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  • Kissing and Telling…Maybe on Monday!

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde September 25, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    After three years of romantic wilderness, of friends-with-benefits and of touch-and-go…This could lead somewhere…it could, if…Sadly, there is a snag…

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  • Sorry, Wrong Number…

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde September 22, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    Calling the wrong number can be amusing or embarrassing. It can also lead to pleasant encounters or unexpected friendship. In this instance, the encounter turned out to be pleasant and fruitful …

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  • Muhammadu Buhari: A Giant of a Man

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde September 20, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    It is my hope that Nigerians will right the wrongs of the past, restore my hope in their goodness and sensibility, and also make it up to Muhammadu Buhari, a great …

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  • The Economy of Nigerian Marriages

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde September 19, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    Today, a sizeable number of Nigerians who return home for a spouse do so at their own peril. Danger and deceit abound as marriages have become business ventures…

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  • Questions…

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde September 16, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    Your soon to be wife is a virgin. A true virgin. Now, if you accidentally slept with her sister, and again accidentally slept with her step-mother five weeks later, would …

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  • Why Is Folasayo Dele-Ogunrinde Angry at Men?

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde August 28, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    Simply put, Folasayo doesn’t think much of men. Left to her whim and imagination, at least 90% of men would be thrown off the cliff. Or decapitated. Or have their …

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  • The Beauty of Growing Old

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde August 24, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    Life comes at us in uncanny ways. We may lose a home, a job, a career, or things that mean a lot to us. Some may face financial ruins, illnesses, …

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  • How Do You Say “Goodbye…So Long”?

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde August 21, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    No matter how bitter or joyous the relationship, sooner or later, goodbye moments will become a reality. And no matter how it is said or when it is said, goodbyes …

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  • Infidelity or Polygamy: It’s Your Choice

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde August 18, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    In popular parlance, the assumption is that White women are easy to talk to, easy to date, easy to have any sort of relationship with. And that in all matter …

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  • A Feud of Three Bulls: A Dissenting Opinion

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde August 17, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    In his current treatise Dr. Okey Ndibe writes like a man who does not understand Nigerian history and African politics. Furthermore, he writes like a man who has never studied Obasanjo…

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  • The Futility of War

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde August 15, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    No nation that started a major war, either in the twentieth or twenty-fist century, has ever emerged victorious…

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  • Africans: Like Parrots They Imitate the West?

    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde August 9, 2006
    by Sabella Ogbobode Abidde

    Certain aspects of the western culture are good and may be copied. Nevertheless, it is shocking to see some Africans abandon, in whole scale, their Africanness…

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