Love Is All That Matters

by Michael Ewetuga

I wonder what makes a wife worthy, is it the love she bestows on her husband or is it her value in terms of decision making in this economically challenged world?

So they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate.”
Mark 10 2-16

That makes me laugh for real for what God has joined together, if he did and not the pastors anyway, the judges will gladly put asunder making pronouncements on division of property and child support. Check your local newspapers for details. And oh, we’re Christians aren’t we?

“I may be able to speak the languages of human beings and even of angels, but if I have no love, my speech is no more than a noisy gong or a clanging bell. I may have the gift of inspired preaching; I may have all knowledge and understand all secrets; I may have the faith needed to move mountains-but if I have no love, I am nothing. I may give away everything I have, and even give up my body to be burned-but if I have no love, this does me no good.”
1 Corinthians, 13:1-13

In order words whatever it is that we possess if there’s no love they are nothing, I bet this does not stop people for marrying for reasons other than love as in security for instance.

Well, I can go on and on. I have been interested in love for a long time, I wonder sometimes if I have it, I can tell you no one says it to me these days and I hardly ever say it to someone else, I do say it sometimes, but at other times I wonder if we do love for real.

I love the idea of love even though some people do not believe in it. Sometimes people say I am not ready for love but I wonder, do you get ready for love or does it just happen? I think the idea of whether or not we are ready for it is the reason why we choose wrong partners. Some people say “I don’t fall in love easy” is there a measurement as to when someone should fall in love? I believe when you are the one determining when you fall or not fall in love the best you can have under such situation is affection and not love, you just met a guy and you love some qualities in him, that’s what happened, not that you love him. After falling in love with the qualities and not the guy and you eventually broke up you claimed your heart is broken, you never loved with your heart in the first instance.

I have also heard people say “I love him I’m not just in love with him”. I wonder what stupid individual came up with that saying, bringing complexities into an otherwise simple phenomenon. You either love someone or you don’t, you might have affection for someone or care about them those things are not the same as being in love with them, so I think it is acceptable to say “I care about him but I don’t love him” than to say “I love him I’m just not in love with him” that sounds so unintelligible, a work of a tardy thinker. That’s my opinion of course.

Most people’s minds are closed, thinking they are wise and it is that wisdom that will make love escape them, perhaps for eternity. We love with our head rather than with our mind. When and if eventually they find love that’s when you hear them say “I have never felt like this before” and that would be after telling several men and women they love them.

When you love, you will experience the glory and you will be in it for a lifetime, nothing is ever going to break it and nothing will ever make it fizzle away. If we continue looking for criteria in other to fall in love, like asking someone to submit a resume for a job when the qualities enumerated in the resume fizzle “love” fizzles with it. Look at people’s profile on dating sites and look at classified section of your newspapers on jobs, you will see similarities. Don’t be surprised to see something like this:

I am looking for a black/white man, with a job, no wife no kids, pets are ok. No mommy or baby mama’s drama, no child support and absolutely no girlfriend. He/she must be between the ages of 20 and 35, with no prior criminal convictions. Absolutely no African, Mexican Puerto Ricans or Jamaicans, on second thought, Jamaicans may apply cause me and my girlfriends are visiting Jamaica in June. I am 45 years old love younger men and I have 5 children.

If we continue using all these unnecessary criteria to fall in love we will never really be happy and we will continue to jump from one partner to another. Internet is a good thing but it has made it worse too since we feel like we can just dispose of one partner and jump in with another one. Music doesn’t help either, remember “you must not know bout me, I can find another you in a minute”

Whatever matters, when the time comes you will lie alone in your casket, unmoving, lifeless and don’t think you have done anything spectacular such as your life being a lesson for others to follow. They will make their own mistakes and die leaving all these things that they hold so dare.

Why am I even writing about death during Christmas period? Maybe I won’t post this or maybe I will, not my intention to mess anyone’s Christmas up. Why not write about death, after all this is Jesus’ birthday (some said he wasn’t born at this time of the year, Roman’s culture?), someone who died for others’ sins, maybe I will go ahead and post it, good or bad, it depends on what you want out of it.

Happy Christmas and I wish everyone that was part of Minorities Interests this year a very merry one, especially Bro. George Malik al-Mahdi who incidentally might not be celebrating Christmas since he’s a Muslim and Rev. George Michael Okafor who will be very much involved in Christmas festivities.

To all those who took time to read my articles this year on whatever website, I really appreciate your readership. If I don’t get to write another one before New Year since I am busy looking for a job so I will cease to be a failure, happy New Year too.

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1 comment December 26, 2007 - 1:25 pm

Love this intropective piece, especially the part about funerals. last time i visited home I was shocked to find out that funerals were now fashion runways. Everyone and their third cousin tries to show off in their aso ebi. I was horrified at how we had come to debase a time for reflection on the life of one we loved.


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