Nigeria Matters

Unkind Postures of the Boss

Some of our ‘Ogas at the top’ behave as if they do not need love from their
‘Boys at the bottom’. They loathe showing kindness to their boys. What they
see as the showing of kindness is the pittance they give to their boys,
even when the boys must be working tirelessly for recognition and

The boys exhibit the most kindness, but are rewarded with a lot of pain.
This act demoralises the boys, showcasing their Ogas as persons, who do not
need love and do not recognise love, when given them. The boys are the ones
who take care of the Ogas’ every need, but are not taken care of in the
appropriate manner that would make them to smile, when no one is around.

Many of the boys have only been rewarded with tears they shed, when no one
is around them. In the relationship between the Ogas and the boys, the
former see it as something that the boys alone must be giving, without them
showing love, forgiveness, kindness, compassion to the boys, when they need
them the most.

The Ogas eschew the advise that was credited to one Og Mandino, who
remarks, “Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to
be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and
understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your
life will never be the same again.”

Another has it: “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for
beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the
knowledge that you are never alone.” The life the Ogas live is the
continuous keeping of the boys at the level they were picked; the Ogas
prefer feigning a life of completeness and purity, by only helping those
of their friends and cronies, who already have enough; they do not help the
boys, because the boys have not helped them financially.

The Ogas would prefer to hurt the boys, because of preferences. The Ogas
are knack in showing friendship in words alone to the boys, without their
hearts burning with loving-kindness for all the boys, who crossed their
paths, for a change to come their ways. The Ogas have refused to be
lectured to understand that kindness means the quality of being kind and
not, the quality of amassing wealth and owning conglomerate of cartels and
business empires.

To be an Oga does not mean to have a large crowd of boys, who do your works
for you, but to also be kind, considerate and generous to them, so that
they could enjoy the legacy of having their own boys by tommorrow, whom
they would in-turn show kindness, generosity towards in order to become
Ogas. Being an Oga should go with Kindness and meaningful generosity, not
for political or cheap publicity, but also for virtue to foster humanity.

It was written: “Little deeds of kindness and little words of love make the
earth pleasant like the heavens above. A part of kindness involves in
loving people more than they deserve. Everyone responds to kindness.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832), German writer, philosopher and
scientist, was it who said, “If you treat an individual as he is, he will
remain how he is. But if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be
and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be.”

The Ogas are much interested in making more money and rich friends and not,
in becoming really interested in the affairs of their boys and trying to
get them uplifted. The Ogas are ready to go for the kill if reminded of the
prudent saying of a George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950), Irish playwright and
journalist thus: “If you have an apple and I have an apple and we exchange
apples then you and I will still each have one apple. But if you have an
idea and I have an idea and we exchange these ideas, then each of us will
have two ideas.”

They go for this kill to remain at the top. And while the Ogas make
progress by the efforts of their boys, whom they hardly take to cognizance
are smarter than them, they do not create positive force field of
attraction that repels the anguish of the boys, so that the boys would one
day be like them. They prefer to create a negative work force against the
boys by creating fear, lavishing blame on the boys, instead of wealth. And
they forgot that when the boys are not happy, the work is internally not
given the best.

The attitude of the Ogas to their boys shows that they are only interested
in self, and not group. They are suspicious, always showing unlovely
traits. Even when the boys are on their best behaviours, the Ogas have bad
behaviours echoed all about them. The Ogas want to be understood at all the
time by the boys, but hardly understand the plights and desires of the boys.

>From childhood, Yours Truly has been told that “No act of kindness, no
matter how small, is ever wasted”. As an adult, many kindnesses shown to
many persons seemed wasted, because they misplaced them and took Yours
Truly as a fool they have tricked and dumped. In this aspect, such reward
from those shown the kindnesses is what makes some persons become wicked
and begin to reward the world with wickedness evermore. In their families,
they would become the fingered, when the word wicked was mentioned and are,
not ready to be cordial and well-mannered to strangers.

Conversely, it pays to be kind. This makes persons to be citizens of the
world. Let the Ogas learn to show kindness to their boys for their
direction in life. The Ogas should understand that “a single act of
kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and
make new trees”. (Amelia Earhart, Magic City Morning Star, Jun. 1, 2005).
They should not be making their boys to regret that their efforts of
kindness are wasted. The Ogas should know that there is no law in the world
that is greater than kindness.

In “Helps to Happiness”, Nicias Ballard Cooksey, says: Kindness is helpful
to the happiness of both recipient and giver. Who does not feel happier on
showing kindness to others, and who does not feel happier on receiving the
manifestation of kindness? Deeds of kindness shown in the little things of
life constitute man’s chief happiness. Many are not able to do any great
things for others, but all can find abundant opportunity of showing little
deeds of kindness which will add much to the happiness of mankind.

“The Healing Power of Kindness” by Jean Maalouf says: More than anything
else, kindness is a way of life. It is a way of living and walking through
life. It is a way of dealing with all that is ourselves, our bodies, our
dreams and goals, our neighbors, our competitors, our enemies, our air, our
earth, our animals, our space, our time, and our very consciousness. Do we
treat all creation with kindness? Isn’t all creation holy and divine?

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