The Immigration Process: Bringing Your Nigerian Husband To America

by Patricia Daboh

I am Patricia Machele Daboh, and I wrote and submitted two articles entitled, Nigeria Is Beautiful To Me and Rejected For Loving A Nigerian Man on Nigerians In America. You can access that website at (now As a result of that article, women, who are engaged to Nigerian men and want to fly to Nigeria to get married, have asked me questions ranging from purchasing a passport, visa, shots needed, purchasing the airplane ticket, the wedding ceremony, and filing the necessary paperwork in order to bring their Nigerian husbands back to their country. I am by no means an expert on this subject, but one thing I have that these women lack is “the experience of the Immigration process”. Matter fact, we are still going through that process. At this point, my husband’s visa-issuing paperwork has been sent to the Lagos, Nigeria Embassy, and we are now going through the “Visa” process, which is conducted by the National Visa Center. After we successfully complete that phase of the Immigration Process, my husband will have his interview at the Lagos, Nigeria Embassy. So, with that in mind, I want to share what I know at this point and have experienced, for I do not want you to have any misconceptions about the length of time it will take to finally be reunited with your husband. It is not an overnight process, and to have a better idea of what to expect will elevate some stresses and disappointments that may come during the waiting process. Therefore, I have put together this information to aid women in bringing their Nigerian husbands to the United States. Best wishes to you all!


Before I begin, I want you to understand (with 100% clarity) that if you have not met your Nigerian fiancé in person (meaning you met him over the internet or by some other means and have not physically been in his presence) DO NOT waste your time and money by filing an I129F Petition For Fiance, for you will be denied. That petition allows your fiancé the privilege of coming to your country, but one stipulation, which they will adhere to, is that you must first have met your fiancé within two years prior to filing the fiancé petition. How do I know that? My husband and I tried it (without my having met him), and we were denied. The cost of the I129F Petition For Fiance is $170.00, and you will not get that money back when you are denied. The Immigration does approve some of those petitions if you have not met your fiancé in person, but those are circumstances where perhaps his cultural custom does not allow you two to meet prior to the wedding day (that was stated in my denial letter). If that is not your case, do not waste your money. The cost to appeal your petition, once denied, is $385.00, but why try to appeal the decision when your circumstances does not warrant an overturn in your situation. We learned that the hard way. You do not have to learn this lesson the hard way, for I am writing this to help you avoid that!


I wanted to talk about the travel documents you will need first because many of these documents are time sensitive, meaning you MUST have these documents and forms way in advance of your planned trip, or you may not be eligible to travel during the time period you desire.

At the time I was planning to meet, my then fiancé, and travel to Lagos, Nigeria for my wedding, I searched various websites trying to find out what I needed to travel to Lagos, Nigeria, and the one I found the most helpful, who processed my visa, is Travel Document Systems, Inc.There are other ones out there also, which are probably full of important and necessary information as well, but I, personally, liked the Travel Documents website the most.

I recommend this website highly, for it fully explains every piece of document you need to travel. Traveling to meet and marry my husband was my first airplane ride and the first time I flew out of the country. So if I, an inexperienced flyer, can get it right the first time, so can you. I will give you the short version of that information. You need the following:

PASSPORT – There is a time frame in processing a passport, so you should purchase one well in advance of your expected travel date. I went to our main post office branch in the town where I lived and got an application. At our post office, I had to make an appointment to do the actual processing of the passport, but you should pick up your application prior to your appointment and have the application filled out. The cost for your passport is on the application, so you can refer to that for the cost.

PASSPORT IMPORTANT INFORMATION – If you already have a passport, you must have at least 6 months travel time left on it before it expires, or you cannot use that one.

PASSPORT PICTURES – You will need 2 passport pictures to submit with your passport during your appointment. But, it was cheaper for me to get my passport pictures taken somewhere else and bring my pictures with me. The post office has equipment set up to take your passport pictures, but it is usually a little more costly. For example, the post office charged $15.00 for 2 passport pictures, and I had them taken somewhere else for $7.99 for 2 passport pictures. Make sure you choose the RIGHT background color for the passport application (read the color requirements on the passport application before taking the picture).

YELLOW FEVER VACCINATION – In order to enter into Lagos, Nigeria, you will need to get a Yellow Fever Vaccination. I got mine through the Health Department. International shots usually must to be scheduled in advance, so you should call your local health department and see how much of a time frame you need to take the shot. If my memory serves me well, you must get your shot within one month before you leave (please double check this out on the website in order to stay within the time frame). The total cost for my Yellow Fever Vaccination where I live was $122.00 (Ouch it stung, girls)! Now there are many more international shots you can get if you want to (optional), but you MUST get this one in order to enter into Lagos, Nigeria (not optional). My Yellow Fever Vaccination Certificate was stapled in my passport, so it could be verified as I went through the custom check when I landed in Lagos, Nigeria.

VISA – You MUST also purchase a Visa in order to enter into Lagos, Nigeria. Again, the website that I recommended, can process that for you. I had my visa processed through them (Travel Documents). In order to process a Visa through them you must:

Apply for and receive your passport first, for you must send the passport to Travel Document Systems, Inc. in order for them to put your Visa sticker on one of your pages in your passport.

Send your original birth certificate with your visa application and passport. They will return it when they send your passport back to you with the visa attached to one of the pages.

Send your International Certificate of Vaccination (what you receive after you take your Yellow Fever Vaccination) along with your application and passport.

Send them a Letter of Invitation from your fiancé (he has to write it, sign and date it). The letter invites you to come to Nigeria as his guest. It should include the dates in which you will actually spend in Nigeria. NOTE: This was required on Travel Document Systems, Inc. when I purchased my Visa. Check to see if the Letter of Invitation is needed now. If in doubt of this being needed to obtain your visa, call Travel Document Systems, Inc., and talk to a representative.

You must send Travel Document Systems, Inc. a copy (not original tickets) of your round trip airplane ticket or an itinerary from the Travel Agency who booked your flight. This will show you intend to go back to your country after your visit.

Do not forget to include your visa application, passport, Yellow Fever Vaccination Certificate, original birth certificate (not a copy), fee, and invitation letter (if needed ) when mailing your documents to the Travel Document Systems, Inc.

You can purchase a visa for single or multiple entries. If you need it expedited (processed quickly), there is an additional fee for that.

If you have any questions prior to sending in your documents to process your visa, please call them, for you do not want your visa to be denied or delayed.


It is totally your responsibility to have all of your REQUIRED documents on you to enter into Lagos, Nigeria once you board an airplane. Not having all the documents after you land in Lagos, Nigeria can get you in legal trouble. You can be arrested for that! Make sure you have everything you need!

Make at least 2 copies of your passport and International Certificate of Vaccination (your visa will be on one of your passport pages, so if you copy your entire passport, it will be copied also).

Give a copy of your passport and International Certificate of Vaccination to two reliable people. If you lose your passport, or it is stolen while you are in Nigeria, you CANNOT leave the country without it! If you make copies, than you can contact those persons and have them sent to you Fed-Ex (not the regular mail please for security reasons). Take that copy to the Nigerian Embassy, and ask for assistance.

The phone number to Travel Documents Systems, Inc. is 1-800-424-8472 (toll free) or (202) 638-3800 (direct number)


A friend of mine told me about a woman that flew to a country to marry her fiancé. The couple had no pictures taken, no official documentation proving that they were married, and it took three years (yes, shockingly 3-years) to get her husband back to her country.

After hearing that story, my husband and I decided that we would not let that happen to us, and we do MORE THAN WAS REQUIRED OR ASKED FOR in order to prove and validate that our wedding was legal. Some of what I am going to tell you is not required, but again I say, we did MORE THAN WAS REQUIRED in order for Immigration not to ask us for even one more piece of paper to make a decision on our petitions. Therefore, we did this when we were married:

We were married at the Marriage Registry in Apapa, Lagos, Nigeria. At the time we were married (January 4, 2007), the Marriage Registry married couples on Thursday and Saturday only. We choose to be married there because:

A couple must undergo marriage counseling prior to the ceremony, and when we did that, it gave us a legal paper trail of what we had done.

The Marriage Registry gives you a Marriage Certificate, Witness Books (thumb prints of your witnesses in your Witness Books), and it is also a very strong legal paper trail of what you have done

My husband hired a person to videotape our wedding

My husband hired a person to take multiple photographs of our wedding

We had two witnesses at our wedding (my husband’s niece and my husband’s best friend, who was his best man)

We asked my husband’s niece to sign a SWORN AFFIDAVIT that she witnessed the wedding. We also had some of our wedding pictures stamped and swore in along with our Sworn Affidavit to make the pictures legal documents of the court. The Sworn Affidavit was registered in the High Court of Lagos, stamped, and given back to me to include in my paperwork for when I would came back home and filled out the petitions to bring my husband and stepson to the states. My husband secured the services of his lawyer to assist us with the Sworn Affidavit, and he processed this for us (for a fee of course).

We opened up a joint savings bank account with both our names on it to prove that as a married couple we have assets together in Lagos, Nigeria.It does not matter the amount of the bank account, but the savings account record will show you own something together as man and wife.

NOTE: The things above were done to make sure that Immigration did not come back and question the legality of our wedding, for the Marriage Certificate, Witness Books, Sworn Affidavit, photographs, and savings account strengthen our position as having a legal and valid marriage. We were prayerful and determined that it would not take us three years (as was the case in the other woman’s situation) for my husband and stepson to get approved. And, thank God, he blessed us in that respect!


Before going to Nigeria to be married, you should call the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) office and order the forms that you need to fill out on behalf of your husband when you get back to the states. One form in particular that you need to take with you to Nigeria, so your husband can fill out is the G-325A Biographic Information form. This form requires residency and work history information for the past five years. You must submit one for your husband and yourself for each petition (I130 and I129F) you file. Your husband needs to fill out two of these forms, so you can file with each petition when you go home, so take two with you when you go. The phone number to USCIS is 1-800-375-5283. You will need to order (1) I-I130, I129F, and G-325A forms. I suggest you order at least two (2) I130 and I129F petitions in case you make an error, and four (4) G-325A forms in case you also make errors. Usually the G-325A comes attached with the I-129F petition, but make sure to request it anyway.


In researching the quickest way to get my husband over to the United States, we decided to apply for K3 and K4 Visas.For more information about the K3 and K4 Visas, please read about it on the website at You may choose to go another route, but I am giving you information for following the route my husband and I took.

FIRST, I filed the I130 Petition, and as soon as I received the I-797C, Notice of Action (which is a notification from the USCIS Office letting you know they received your petition and how it is being handled), I made a copy of the I-797C Notice of Action and included it in my I129F Petition that I filed next. Please do not delay filing them back-to-back, for if you do, it will take longer in getting your husband approved.

Now, let’s back up here somewhat. The I130 Petition is the first petition you should file when you return home.If you have ordered the petitions (I130 and I129F)prior to leaving for Nigeria, then there will be no delay.The cost to file the I130 Petition is $190.00. You should fill out the form in its entirety, and follow all instructions. Make sure you fill the petition out correctly, for you do not want delays due to errors made on your part. Do not forget to include the G-325A Biographic Information form with this petition! Read carefully which USCIS Office you should mail your petition to, for that will vary according to where you live. I read through the directions, highlighting important information, so after I filled out the petition; I knew exactly what to do with it. Again, mistakes can cause delays, so if you need to get someone to double-check behind you, please do. Better safe than sorry!

Important note: Make sure they have your husband’s name spelled correctly on the aI-797C Notice of Action. If they do not, contact them immediately, so this can be corrected. You do not want problems later when his visa-issuing papers are sent to the Lagos Nigeria Embassy, and his name does not match the paperwork sent.


Immediately after you receive the I-797C, Notice of Action, letting you know that your I130 Petition has been received, make a COPY of the I-797C, Notice of Action.You will include it in your I129F Petition for Fiancé (e).If you DO NOT include the I-797C, Notice of Action, the immigration process will not be sped up on your behalf. IT IS A REQUIREMENT THAT YOU FILE BOTH THE I130 AND I129F PETIIONS. AND WHEN YOU SEND IN YOUR I129F PETITON, YOU MUST SEND A COPY OF THE I-797C, NOTICE OF ACTTION FROM THE I130 PETITON. Do not forget to include the G-325A Biographic Information form with this petition!

As was said about the I130 Petition, you should already have ordered the petition before you went to Nigeria, and therefore, you can file the petition as soon as you receive your I-797C, Notice of Action from the I130 Petition. Do not delay doing this! The cost to file the I129F Petition is $170.00.

Make sure you send the I129F Petition to the right location.The directions say if you filed an I130 Petition and are also filing an I129F Petition, then you must send it to a particular location.

For example: I mailed my I130 Petition to the USCIS Texas Service Center, P.O. Box 850919, Mesquite, Texas, 75185-0919. I live in South Carolina, and South Carolina residents are required to mail them at that location. I mailed my I130 Petition on January 19, 2007 to the USCIS Texas Service Center. The USCIS Texas Service Center forwarded my petition to the USCIS California Service Center (for that office processes the I130 petitions), and the USCIS California Service Center received my Petition on January 22, 2007. My I-797C, Notice of Action for my I130 Petition was date January 26, 2007 (fast turn around)!

NEXT, I mailed my I129 Petition to USCIS, P.O. Box 7218, Chicago, Illinois, 60680-7218 (for the directions said to do so) on March 1, 2007 (overnight mail). As you will see, I did not file my I129F Petition immediately after receiving my I-797C, Notice of Action from my I130 Petition. The USCIS, Chicago, Illinois office received my I129F Petition on March 2, 2007, and my I-797C, Notice of Action was dated March 6, 2007 (fast turn around).

On March 15, 2007, the National Benefits Center in Lee’s Summit, MO sent me an I-797C, Notice of Action stating that on March 6, 2007 they received my I129F Petition, and they were transferring my I129F Petition to the USCIS California Service Center in order to speed up processing.

On April 24, 2007, I received an I-797C, Notice of Action informing me that my I130 Petition was APPROVED for my husband (stepson included). On April 25, 2007, I received an I-797C, Notice of Action informing me that my I129F Petition was APPROVED for my husband (stepson included), and the dates of the I129F Petition will be valid from April 25, 2007 to August 24, 2007.

So it took from January 19, 2007 (the date when I mailed my first petition) until April 25, 2007 to receive APPROVAL NOTICES for both petitions (3 months and 6 days)! God is good!

I was told that the visa-issuing papers were being sent to the Lagos Nigerian Embassy for my husband.

NOTE: Even though your husband’s visa-issuing paperwork will be sent to the Lagos Nigerian Embassy by the National Visa Center, you still MUST go through the “VISA” process prior to your husband’s interview at the Embassy. That is the Immigration stage my husband and I are now experiencing.


The National Visa Center wrote me a letter dated March 11, 2007 informing me that my husband’s visa-issuing paperwork was being sent to the Lagos Nigeria Embassy within the next week.

On June 11, 2007, I received a letter from the National Visa Center letting me know I must pay the $70.00 Processing fee in order for the Visa to continue to be processed.It is called the Affidavit of Support (I-864) Processing Fee Bill.I mailed that on June 18, 2007, and the National Visa Center (in St. Louis, MO for all Visa payments go there), have up to twenty (20) working days to process my payment.

After my Processing Fee is put in their system, the National Visa Center located in Portsmouth, NH will give me permission to send file my financial information.I must file more I-864 forms showing my financial standing.If you want to see the “Poverty Guidelines” that is allowable, please see form I-864P on the website.

Please note that you cannot apply for federal means-tested public benefits to assist you in taking caring for your husband and/or his children. That means you cannot apply for food stamps, Medicaid, Supplemental Security Income (SSI), Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF), and the State Child Health Insurance Program (SCHIP). That also includes any state means-tested public benefits, which vary from state to state.

So in other words, you must be financially sound in order to bring a husband to the United States.Please go to the website at http://travel.state.govto see the various I-864 forms you need to fill out once the NationalVisaCenter gives you permission to fill them out and send them in for verification.

After you send in your Processing Fee, you can get your financial documents together, so there will be no delay in sending in these forms.


When the National Visa Center sent me the bill for the Processing Fee, they also included a CHOICE OF AGENT AND ADDRESS FORM, which my husband MUST fill out and mail back to the NationalVisaCenter.He is giving the NVC permission to send any paperwork on his behalf to me, who will be listed as his “agent”, so I can process the Visa fees once we pass the inspections of my financial documents.


If you do not have a good paying job or do not meet the I-864P Poverty Guidelines (see 2007 guidelines), now will be the time to seek other employment.You do not want your husband approved to come to the United States only to be denied due to your lack of finances.Of course, your husband may work after he comes to the United States, but he has to file paperwork in order for that process to take place.In the meantime, you must be able to take care of him, and any stepchildren, prior to that happening.


As I said at the beginning, my husband and I are not finished with the Immigration process, and I still have more to share with you as our experience unfolds.But, I wanted to share our experience with you, so you can have an idea of what you will face when you marry a Nigerian citizen and desire to bring him into the United States. It is a lengthy and expensive process, and you must be willing to wait patiently for your husband to come to you.It also requires a lot of faith, for you can be denied at any phase of the Immigration Process. After reading this article (Part I), I hope it helps you understand it more. Please be on the look out for Part II, in which I plan to share the rest of the Immigration Process and the Joy of receiving my wonderful, Nigerian husband, whom I love dearly!

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LaNell November 26, 2016 - 8:07 am

I find all of story and detail very interesting, and helpful for my current plans to marry the live of my life who us from Nigeria. We are praying and trusting God with what must do to come together and marry and gave as little stress as ossible but be prepared. Thus article supplied enough for us to talk to an attorney about situation and move the ball forward. Thank you and I appreciate you Patricia. I will email you soon.

Concerned November 27, 2016 - 9:50 pm

I was told that you must revisit Nigeria after you have been married to prove that your marriage is not fake or a scam. Is this true? Because, they wanted to know how often the wives visit Nigeria. It is very difficult when you have a full time and demanding job to take off to travel all the time, so I was wondering has any other wife visited their husband other than the time you were married?

Lolita Jenkins August 17, 2016 - 7:44 pm

I sent an email but it read error ,I typed so much I couldnt stand to do it again ,so Ill say from here I appreciate you sharing your journey with us it is the most thourough process Ive seen yet .We will be sure to continue watchung for Part II of the process. We are at the very beginning of things been together for a year and 8 mo. God orchestrat,. I wont share to much more here but would like to go into further detail on a more private space .If there is some way for me to contact you more directly Id like that.

michele apgar July 2, 2016 - 12:59 am

i am trying to understand the whole process of bringing my fiancee from nigeria over here to the states would it be better to get an immigration lawyer to do everything because i not understanding certain things like the forms

Shine July 13, 2016 - 10:15 pm

I just filed for my husband on 6/9/16… You must file the i130 form along with a g325 form included for each yourself and spouse that he MUST fill out himself and sign!

Olagoke Olatunji September 23, 2012 - 4:31 pm

God Bless you more, just keep the good Angelic work going, remain blessed and your Husband. am about to start mine Journey too help me in your Prayers, my wife is from your present state, but she is living in newport news, just as you are from new jesey. and living in north carolina. Thanks.

Demeesha Moore April 7, 2011 - 6:34 pm

I adore the way you put people in their place in a professional, educated, and woman like manner. Keep up the good work and enjoy your husband, god knows I can’t wait to finally enjoy mines. YOU TOLD THEM LOL THUMBS UP!!!

Demeesha Moore March 25, 2011 - 3:48 pm

Wonderful story, I live in North Carolina and I met this Nigerian guy online. He lives in Israel at the momenet, so I went 2 Israel 2 see him and had a wonderful time. He took me to the Jeruslem Tours I mean we had a wonderful time, so he ask me to marry hom and I said yes. We were planning on gettting married in Nigeria, but we were going to travel back and forth from the states to Nigeria. We have plenty of pics together and we already did the marriage counciling by a pastor who lives in Israel but is from Nigeria, my fiance do not have any children and he’s never been married. I was recently laid off from my job that Ive been at for 5yrs so I decided to attend school, is it still impossible for me 2 bring my husband back 2 the states? Im plan on following all your instructions and yes its very stressful and Ive not gotten started. Is it possible for me 2 get a lawyer 2 help do all of this for me?

keysha March 9, 2016 - 11:08 am

can you email me im in north Carolina as well and I need some advice

betty May 28, 2010 - 2:59 pm

I wish to God I had this information because my husband case is pending with the B I A (board of immigration appeals) because my husband went to his interview where he is residing in lagos,nigeria they are saying we married for IMMIGRATION PURPOSES WHICH IS NOOOT TRUE.

Edwina Chikere January 17, 2009 - 7:22 am

Great information. I married my hubby in Lagos, Nigeria on Nov 6th, 2008. We are starting the process to get him here. I met with an attorney in person and talked with one over the phone. They have said pretty much the same thing and I have decided to hire an attorney to help with the process. I know that it is more expensive, however, I do not want to screw up the paper work and have it be my 10th anniversary and my hubby is still in Nigeria.

My husband on the other hand is quite upset at this time as someone in Nigeria told him that it would take 2-3 months to complete the process. I tried to tell him early on that this was going to take awhile especially since he is from Nigeria and our relationship and Marriage will be called into question. I know that he will calm down and do what he can on his end to help matters.

As was said earlier, patience is required for this process and I know that everything will work out fine in the end. Thank you for your writings.

endy December 4, 2008 - 11:18 am

Dear,you have been a source of inspiration and hope to many of us who have our loved ones in America and wants to one day join them,my fiance is already here in nigeria to stay with me for six months and we intend on filing for my visa application as soon as she gets back to America.Our intension is to do the fiance visa rather than the spouse visa,because her parents are already planning our wedding as soon as i come to america.What should be your dearest advice? may the almighty be your guide.

Patricia June 16, 2008 - 11:18 pm

Trista, did you husband come over? I hope and pray so. Mine will be here on Friday, June 20, 2008.

Patricia June 16, 2008 - 11:16 pm

It is refreshing to hear from a man that is procesing a woman into his country (for I normally community with women who are doing that). Best wishes. My husband will join me on Friday, June 20, 2008.

Patricia June 16, 2008 - 11:15 pm

God favored us highly. He will join me in American on Friday, June 20, 2008. Thanks for your well wishes.

Patricia June 16, 2008 - 11:12 pm

Hello Endy. The stipulations for applying for a fiance visa is that you two must have met within 2 years prior to the application (which my husband and I did not qualify for, for we met in person right before we married). One thing I did not like about the fiance visa is that even when you qualify for one, your Nigerian fiance is subject to being put on a “visa waiting list”, for he is not your spouse. When I applied for my husband to come to me in America, he was not subject to a long waiting visa list, but we were subject to going through the Immigration and National Visa Center processes. That was long enough in itself.

Endy, I do not have all the answers for variouis situations, but I wrote this article in a “journal” style, for I can only tell you what my husband and I went through. He will be with me on Friday, and I will write the Part II of the Immigration Process in which I will tell you about what we experienced. Hopefully, something I will say may prompt you to proceed with your immigration process in the best way for you and your fiance/spouse.

I am not an Immigration expert, but I am writing you about what happened to my husband and I.

I hope I have said something that helped you. Bottom line, you and your fiance must do your research/homework on the immigration process and make the best decision for you both. The only sure thing I can tell you need patience, for things are no done overnight when you meet, fall in love with, and marry someone who is not a United States citizen, and you must process him/her into America.

God bless.

Patricia June 16, 2008 - 9:20 am

Hello Debra. My husband will be joining me on Friday (June 20, 2008). His interview was in April, and he was granted his visa in May. We are very excited about him finally coming to me.

I am very sorry it did not turn out like that for you, but continue to hope, pray, and believe things will work out. People do not realize that after all the expense of flying there to marry, petitions filed, and visa fees paid; the Consulate Officer can say, "denied", and all of those efforts will have been in vain. If it cannot be overturned, then you have three choices (1) live a marriage apart visiting one another as often as possible, (2) move to Lagos, or (3) get a divorce.

I will be keeping a "journal" entitled, the Nigerian Connection in order to effectively write more articles or a book. This will be my husband's first experience in America, so it will be a wonderful (yet interesting experience) watching him discover another country for the first time in his life. In addition, although we share the same skin color, we are as far as night is to day in reference to culture and customs. We both must learn to blend together to form our new life.

Most of my articles are listed on, where you can see a list of all of the articles I have written so far.

I pray your situation is swiftly turned over, for we married on January 4, 2007; and I know what it feels like to be separated for months on end. God will bless your life. Think about the above choices I listed

On another note: My stepson is "not" joining us right now. You see the petition to process my husband individually came through, and the other petition to process them as a family was not even processed yet. Therefore, we decided to bring my husband over here first, and then process my stepson "individually" as I did my husband. My stepson livs with his biological mother. I think it is better this way, for it gives us "time alone" to adjust to one another prior to enlarging our family. We plan on traveling back next year to have the DNA testing done.

I think we were in touch at one time before, but I do not know if I still have your email address. In case I do not, please contact me at, and we can talk further.

endy bonomi June 16, 2008 - 8:11 am

Hello patrica,what will be your advice is it prefareable you aply for a fiance visa from nigeria,with my fiance living with me in nigeria and our plans is wedding in America .what will be your best advice? Do you think a court union should be the best,right now in Nigeria.

Debra Adamu February 6, 2008 - 7:05 pm

Hello Patrica, My situation is much the same as yours, we were married in Lagos Feb.2007. My husband had his interview Nov.26,2007 and much to our disappointment he was given a 221-g and not a visa. We are in administritive processing the embassy said it will take another 6-12 months, I pray this doesn’t happen to you. In your article you also didn’t mention getting the DNA test between your step-son and your husband, we were not informed this was required before the interview, the cost for this is crazy $600 for the test and another $200 for service? The embassy sent us to a “special place” to get the test done, email me and I will send you a copy of the paperwork. I wish you luck on the interview and pray you don’t get stuck in the same mess we are in.

wishing you joy and happiness, Debbie

Patricia November 20, 2007 - 9:12 pm

COMMENT: I am addressing the comment made on 11/20/07 about my getting permission to copyright the material I posted here. First, let me give you the definition of the word "copyright" as per the follwing website:

noun 1. the exclusive right to make copies, license, and otherwise exploit a literary, musical, or artistic work, whether printed, audio, video, etc.: works granted such right by law on or after January 1, 1978, are protected for the lifetime of the author or creator and for a period of 50 years after his or her death.

–adjective 2. of or pertaining to copyrights.

3. Also, cop·y·right·ed. protected by copyright.

–verb (used with object) 4. to secure a copyright on.

NOW: I did not copyright anything in my article, but I could not identify the forms I personally filed on behalf of my husband unless I put a name on the forms. I in no means used, copied, cut or pasted, or took credit for the creation of those petitions filed, but I simply shared what documents I used in order to file on behalf of my husband.

I appreciate your concern, but I would "never" try to take credit for someone else's work. I explained my personal journey through the Immiration process, and I gave helpful information about how the process works as a means to help other people understand it as they go through it also.

It reads like a diary, which many appreciate as you can see from the comments made.

Patricia Daboh

Nancy Tolsma November 12, 2007 - 11:23 pm

Wonderful information, thank you so very much for writing it. I am engaged to a wonderful nigerian man. I did not know where to begin in the process of our upcoming marriage and then the process of bringing him to america. I would love to chat with you anytime and hear how things are currently going for you and your new family!! May God bless you continue to give you strength. He is the reason we are surviving our seperation at the moment!! Again I thank you for the great article!

Blessings, Nancy

Anonymous August 20, 2007 - 12:45 am

excellent info. i printed out this info as a guide..i will be leaving for lagos in feb 2008 when my love and i will be married..thanks for helping all of us

Unknown User August 12, 2007 - 6:27 pm

Thank! I'm seeking marriage to a Ghanian lady.

Trista P. Nwokey August 8, 2007 - 10:25 pm

Thank you for your article. We are at the same point your are now in the process. We were married in December 2006. I submitted paperwork in January. My husband's interview is on August 15, 2007. We have most of the documents for proof that you have mentioned. Thanks again!

Anonymous July 12, 2007 - 2:33 pm

May God favour your husband when he goes for the final interview in Lagos. Wishing both of you the best in life and I hope he will ever be grateful for all these you are doing for him and his son/daughter.

Anonymous July 6, 2007 - 5:35 am

Excellent info, thanks for sharing. The american immigration system is rigged with landmines so the unwary will not only be delayed but denied…

mrskenna July 5, 2007 - 12:18 pm

This information will help a lot of future brides here. Good info!

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